If you have ever felt any of these, listed in the title of this post, then I encourage you to read what Miguel has written.
If you are a Christian, then surely you have been summoned to appear before the court of subjective sin seekers. You know the type, both judge and jury. You’ve been called out and called in to answer for some supposed sin. Granted, it may be actual and justified, but more often than not, these accusations are unsubstantiated. How do you react when someone confronts you regarding a sin in your life?
I think, that oftentimes, in anger or other uncontrolled and elevated passions those that accuse you have little basis for the charges. In the court of Christianity, it’s guilty until proven innocent. And so, how are we to deal with a situation in which we are being accused by a brother or sister? Some thoughts:
1. Take a deep breath and say a silent prayer. – “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.” Proverbs 15:1 ”Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them.” Romans 12:14 Taking a sanctified second to practice self-control Galatians 5:22 can alleviate a host of misunderstandings.
2. Ask them, “Where have I sinned in this?” – While this might further provoke, it is a good question to clarify another’s perception. Even if it ends up that they can not show you where you’ve sinned, then at least their thoughts, feelings, and intentions are laid bare for a more careful examination.
3. Be ready to listen because they may be right. – You may be guilty! ”Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” James 1:19 Our anger does little good when injected into someone else’s and is projected back at us. We must watch that our anger is not unleashed in further sin because we know we are guilty of what other’s may accuse us of.
4. Identify and Clarify Subjective Terminology – There are a host of commonly used terms that are subjective in nature. Prideful, Boastful, Arrogant, and Unkind, are but a few. When someone is using these fuzzy words, it’s important to nail it down and ask, for example, ask, “In what way am I being prideful?” Then go back to point 2.
None of us should poise ourselves as prosecuting attorneys in Christianity. That position belongs to only one. The accuser of the brethren, Satan himself. If someone is always accusing you, then chances are they are his assistant District Attorneys. We are not like Job when he cried, “If only someone would listen to me! Look, I will sign my name to my defense. Let the Almighty answer me. Let my accuser write out the charges against me.” Job 31:35 We have an advocate – “My dear children, I am writing this to you so that you will not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate who pleads our case before the Father. He is Jesus Christ, the one who is truly righteous.” 1 John 2:1
As a final consideration, I think that we need to at least consider the idea that there exists “grey” areas when it comes to sin. Some of you who just read that are saying, “you just lost me there.” But, these grey areas are mostly centered in acts of omission. “Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin.” James 4:17. What isn’t sin to one, may be sin to another. Our understanding of what sin is, is crucial in dealing with situations where we are being accused.And so, a few questions:1. What is your manner of dealing with those who would accuse you of sin?2. What practical advice would you give to others who are always accusing others of sin?3. Are there indeed “grey” areas when it comes to sin, or is it black and white? read more via Accusations, Subjective Summons, & Supposed Sin | Pathways International.