There are, unfortunately, many folks out there who can relate with what Kathy has written. I thank God there are people like Kathy that are assisting them in the healing process. If you or someone you know have gone through the pain of being one of the ‘walking wounded’ I encourage you to read and share this piece.
i do not think church systems wake up in the morning and think “i’m going to hurt a lot of people today.” intentions are often good. stirrings from God seem clear. visions and strategies make total sense. the desire to make a difference “for the kingdom” is strong.
for all kinds of reasons, though, many church systems are really unhealthy. often our basic insecurity as christians is a flaw that crops up all over the place in the way we interact with the world. our blindedness to our own dysfunctions and the fear of counseling & recovery for ourselves & within the church makes us even more unsafe. sprinkle in power and a structure that has thrived with one charismatic leader on top, and it’s a recipe for disaster.
churches hurt people when they:
1. abuse power
2. put programs over people
3. perpetuate inequality
4. demand certainty
5. expect conformity
6. dismiss pain
7. ignore giftedness
8. pull the God/here’s-what-the-Bible says trump card
9. create scapegoats
10. shame, and then shame some more
i’m sure there are many more. these are just a few off the top of my head. what would you add?i often wonder what Jesus would think of today’s contemporary church. what we’ve created seems so similar to what he was railing against during his time on earth. his call to a life centered on the beatitudes has been hijacked by many systems built on his name, and something far different has been promoted & modeled. there’s a lot of carnage out here because of it. beautiful, sincere, dear people who really believed in “church” and ended up on the outs for all kinds of reasons.
some days it just makes me cry.
i have a deep passion for those that we call “the walking wounded”–followers of Jesus hurt by the systems they have given their life, heart, time, passions to in all kinds of ways. i know if i hadn’t had a safe place to process after my painful church experience a chunk of years ago, i am not sure where my faith would have ended up. we crawled our way to healing together.
i don’t think the church is aware of how much hurt it has inflicted. the wheels keep spinning. self-preservation continues to be top priority….
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